Saturday, October 30, 2010
Dealing with Unforgiving People
When dealing with an unforgiving person, it is important to not take it to heart. Chances are they are unforgiving toward others as well. The Bible says that from a person's heart their mouth speaks. So if they are unforgiving and hide that fact, at some point it will be revealed. The important thing is that their attitudes do not become apart of what is in our own hearts. Will we also be unforgiving in return? Will their hostility become our own? May God place a vast chasm between such hearts so the poison is unable to infect the one who chooses to forgive. Such a person can find happiness within themselves even in the most hurtful circumstances. Our own attitudes do not depend on anyone else. Yet, for the one who chooses to be unforgiving, these are the ones who take bitterness to their graves. Perhaps they are unaware there is a choice, or maybe they just don't know how to be any other way. Still, it is vital to show them with our own selfless response to such rudeness. Do not repay evil for evil, but with love and dignity address others, even if their actions have been offensive. By doing so, the offense is covered and love promoted. Demonstrating such behavior keeps our own hearts clean, and shows the one who is stumbling a much more dignified way to live. Others in their lives may have shown them this before without the benefit of seeing their hearts change, and perhaps neither will we, but regardless, if we do our part, God promises us a reward here on earth as well as in heaven. There is never any reason a person should take responsibility for being abused because there is never a justified cause for the abuse of being unforgiven, regardless the reason. The other person's reason is simply not justifiable. Still, there is a tendency to want reconciliation even through such situations. Still, never be over sympathetic toward the one being unforgiving. Unforgiveness is abusive, but worst of all it is abusive to the abuser by locking them into a hardened heart that will break on their own death bed if not sooner. Remember, broken hearts are the sacrifices of God! We are only responsible for our own choices. No one can cause us to be responsible for them no matter how abusive they may be, or how much we want to save them from themselves, we cannot.